If I behave better in some respects as a result of being in love, it is not because of fear of punishment, which, as I've said, I do not regard as a good reason to obey anyone.
One of the main problems in our marriage was that my husband is a very quick-tempered man, and would sometimes lose his temper seriously, to an extent where I actually used to get quite frightened of him. This had a very bad effect on me. It was very difficult for me to talk to him about this, because I didn't really think it could change anything, but after reading this site and realising that this was what I really wanted, I thought it was worth a try. I told him that if he would try not to lose his temper with me, I would try much harder not to do the things that caused him to lose his temper. And, somewhat to my surpise, this has worked. I do try much harder, and he doesn't lose his temper with me any more, even when things have happened that have seriously annoyed him. We are more considerate of each other's feelings now, he tries not to hurt me by losing his temper, and I try not to give him cause.
I still get spanked, considerably harder than I used to, but I am still not afraid of this. The reason I try harder to please him is not fear of punishment, but greatly increased respect for him now that I know that he can master himself, and therefore master me. An increased desire to please him is what has helped me to alter certain aggravating aspects of my behaviour, in other words, love, not fear, is the motivation. Now that I am getting much longer, harder and more painful spankings than I ever did before, it is a 'help' in the sense that I feel increased submissiveness and arousal when I am spanked, but I do not fear these spankings, and punishment avoidance is not what makes me more obedient.